What's it like to be Married to Me?

by Linda Dillow
Yep, it's a book. I bought it. And we laughed when I did. However, just by reading the cover and flipping through I feel like I've had my eyes opened to a few things. It's kinda a weird question to ask yourself. "What's it like to be married to me?" I found a page while flipping through it that asked questions about what your husband comes home to, how much fun you are, and the awkward "what's it like to have sex with me?" question.
We are not the couple that acts like
she belongs in the kitchen
he makes money
she bathes the children
he reads the paper
she keeps her mouth shut
he speaks and it happens
Actually if you know us, these would make you laugh. We are more
she stays home with the kids
he works hard
then
she goes to work part time
he stays with the kids part time
we bathe the children
we don't even get the paper
she bakes
he helps clean it up
we speak, we either agree, or we argue then we compromise
we're a team.
It works for us. But it's hard with busy, with work, with running errands, with 'me' time, with kids, with sleepless nights, with no alone time together, with a cluttered house, with spending time with friends...we get tense.
I'm excited to read this book, I will keep you posted. I can tell you one thing...I wouldn't want to be married to me. I'm tired. I'm jittery on coffee when I'm not sleeping. I live in clothes big enough for a 3,000 lb man. I eat like a pig. I love me time, a lot. I'm independent. I love getting flowers, cards, and thoughtful gifts. I can be a brat. I have been a brat.
My new goal. I want to be fun to come home to. I want the house to smell like meat, vegies, and potatoes. Or maybe cookies. Or bread. Or smell clean. Or it can stink, if people are laughing. I want to first tell a funny story before I fall into a hug and moan about the energy a two year old has. I want to go bowling together. Running together. Laugh a lot.
Unfortunately it only focuses on being married to 'me', not what kind of person do you want to be married to. Guess I'll work on me :) instead of my husband. Let's be honest- we are the only person we can change. Just being reminded that if I work on me, we can both be happier :) Now...time to read!

A few quotes from the book:
"One woman has enthusiasm for 30 minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the woman who has it for 30 years who makes a success of her marriage."
"Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work as a wife with excellence." I like this one.
"I am a big believer in the mirror test. All that matters is if you can look in the mirror and honestly tell the wife you see there, that you've been faithful" -also talks about asking the wife you see if you did your part in marriage. Focusing on you.