I love having a blog...

because I can say whatever I want to :)
I've been slightly grouchy lately, and I know one of the reasons. I have found out of another failing marriage, one I thought would last forever. Why not? It's endured the beginning of marriage, which is an adjustment. It's endured multiple children's births, terrible twos through high school. It's made it to a stage where those children have grown and become independent individuals. Aren't these supposed to be the best years of your life? Shouldn't it be easier now then in the beginning when you're trying to figure each other out and trying to talk over screaming and crying on zero hours of sleep?
It bums me out to see marriages fail. It bums me out even more when there are children involved. Young and old children are being taught that it is okay to give up. It's okay to be dishonest, and it's perfectly normal to fall out of love. I'm not in a fairy tale- there have been times in my short marriage where I've reminded myself I love this man, I love this man, I love this man. I'm stubborn, he's stubborn, and we're both sensitive. Weird combination, but when we work together, we're dynamite. When we work against each other, same reaction. I think we're normal. I think what kids need to see is that life is hard, love is hard, but you are worth fighting for, love is worth fighting for.
It has frustrated me to no ends to see these couples act as if their lives are not affecting anyone else. I hate when mothers and fathers become selfish to the point of putting themselves before their children. If you want to place yourself over your spouse, shame on you, but you chose each other- so fight it out....whatever. But not your children, they didn't ask for you. Shame on you for forgetting the excitement of new life; the excitement of seeing your spouse and yourself in the same human being. Shame on you for thinking children are an inconvenience or that they don't deserve an explanation. Shame on you for thinking it's someone else's job to show your kids what true love is. I pray someone reminds me of this when I'm farther along down the road....
Shame on you for thinking your the only one who has a good reason to give up- shame on you for thinking you deserve better, and shame on you for dwelling on the small stuff.